question:
would you rather be constantly pushed off or cancelled on, with one person's hopes that you realize this person does not want to hang out with you?
or
would you rather have someone honestly say, "please stop" ?
Apparently most people would go with the former.
But i am just so sick of it. I am tired of making excuses and cancelling at the last minute. I am tired of being asked to hang out. I have not been openly friendly to this person in oh at least a year and a half- that is a pretty substantial amount of time, wouldn't you think?
I don't see why he won't let it go and its highly frusterating.
And you know what? i don't think he is a great guy either. Actually, this is what i think:
1. You try to be so nice to everyone and sometimes its pretty insincere.
2. You are a first-class know it all, and not in a nice way- its often obnoxious.
3. Being straight-edged is fine, but do you have to remind everyone constantly? Its not new information, we get it. And yes, it comes off as being "superior", b/c you probably still think you are even though you would never admit that to anyone, possibly even yourself.
4. Get Over High School. You are not a nerd with no friends anymore, you are an adult and have the abilities and skills to make your own damn friends and grow. No one is classifying this or that group or skill as "cool" anymore, and you should be mature enough not to care.
5. If you don't start dating... NoW, you never will, and it will make you creepy.
Think: 40.year.old.virgin.
6. You think you are being so accommodating, but i don't really buy it.
7. Stop trying to play the "poor me" card- again, you are an adult.
8. GROW.UP.
9. Get a life.
10. LET.It.G0.
11. Leave me alone!
12. Of course i'm going to be nice to you in public because thats WHAT ADULTS DO! Its not just me, its most of CIVILIZATION.
13. Stop clinging on to bits and pieces of everything.
14. You are only hurting yourself and digging further into a hole.
15. You are emotionally stunted- get over it and try to fix it.
16. I am sorry i ever told you anything about myself- emphasis on anything- and i completely regret it. I was substituting you for something that was missing, which was wrong. And i apologized for it. Then you said nasty things and we really had a blow out. And i just want this all to be over because it is childish and RIDICULOUS.
16-B: i regret telling you anything foremost because it made me vulnerable and gave you information.
16-C: you wield information like a weapon, which is not nice, fair, or actually beneficial (to you) in any way. I do not believe that you are aware of the fact that it never helps your case, but it doesn't. It falls under the 'obnoxious/annoying' category, as well as 'mean', because exposing peoples wounds just because you were privvy to the information does NOT, i repeat does NOT make them like you/respect you more! guess what? it does the OPPOSITE! Throwing priveleged information which maybe makes you feel important (also wrong) instead hurts the person and makes them dislike you and regret your previous discussions!
17. in regards to summing up #16, GET.A.CLUE.
18. You are too selective- no mensa supermodel is going to knock on your door. And if she did, you probably wouldn't be able to physically talk to her anyway!
19. You may have information, but you really don't know anything about me.
20. You need to start learning how to listen to people.
21. You need to start being receptive.
22. You think you are trying to be supportive through encouraging me to do things. If you were receptive or ever listened, you would realize that i do NOT want that encouragement because i am so very over it. You think i still want it or should still want it for some reason- and guess what? still don't. And i also don't believe you. Maybe its what you think i should be striving for because i am not "reaching my full potential", something that is purely in your head. Really, it bothers me the attention/support because i so don't want it. So stop trying to be all supportive- i think it falls under your category of falseness.
23. You make way too many assumptions, most of which are usually wrong.
24. You don't know everything- really you know nothing about most things, those things that will get your farther in life.
25. Maybe you are right and i do hate you because this list just seems to continue. Maybe i can't stand hanging out with you and actually dread when you will be in the vicinity, whether public or at someone's home. Maybe i never want to talk to you and volunteer as little information as possible, in a very unenthusiastic (which you are too dense or excited to pick up on) manner. Maybe i wish you'd go away and wouldn't be sad if i never saw you again. Maybe i'd be thrilled if we moved tomorrow and i never had to see you, or a few choice others, ever again. Maybe.
26. Stop commenting on every-fucking-thing on Facebook! No One Cares!
27. i know you better than probably anyone ever will and that is most unfortunate. For me because i don't care but i can read you beyond well. For you because it is sad, since i haven't cared for a very long time. And i hope for your sake that you do meet someone who will put up with you and change you hopefully for the better because everyone deserves happiness.
But i am tired of arguing, and trying to explain myself. I am tired of pussyfooting and trying to make sure no ones feelings are hurt. You think i'm nice to you in public because i don't want people to think less of me. You are straightup wrong in thinking i am "pleased" to see you because i never am. I smile when i see everyone, you are not special. You are transparent to me, and most likely will never change much. I strongly suggest trying though. I would never be mean to anyone in public because it is CHILDISH and IMMATURE. i am an adult. I may have things to work on but at least i try and am more successful in areas you will most likely struggle with for the rest of your life. I may not have a well paying job but everything else is awesome and personally, those things matter much more.
So this is what i want- its very simple, really.
1. Please stop trying to hang out with me. I am not comfortable with it.
That's all. think i'm a phony? fine. think i'm fake? fabulous.
You think i care if you feel that way-
you think i care if others think poorly of me-
i used to. but with you guys, i sooooooo don't.
because you are all emotionally and/or socially and/or psychologically inept and screwed up.
i usually cannot stand most of you, and find myself wanting to drink when you are around.
so i don't care if you think i'm mean.
get over it.
and stop bothering me.
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